Feeling that you deserve to have a “forbidden food” after a bad day is an example of how your thinking can be a roadblock to your success. Before I talk more about this, let’s just backtrack a bit first.

How did we ever get to the place where when something bad happens to us, we actually do further damage by taking an action that moves us further away from our goals, ultimately leaving us feeling even worse? And somehow we’ve convinced ourselves that doing this is treating ourselves well? It’s all mixed up.

I completely agree that after a bad day you deserve something, but I think that something should be something that helps to undo the effects of the day. A bad day might mean you deserve an apology, a massage, or even a good deal on auto-repair (for a really bad day, LOL). Unless you let it, a bad day does not give you permission to throw all that you’ve worked towards (with your weight) out the window. And that is exactly what’s happening when you decide you deserve to eat the cookies/french fries/entire pizza etc.

“Deserve” can denote either reward or punishment. “The athlete deserved the medal” versus “The murderer deserved the life sentence”. So ask yourself this: Why, when the universe has delivered a bad day to you, do you feel the need to punish yourself for it? And punish yourself is exactly what you are doing when you decide to go off track. And then later when you come to your senses, the punishment continues when you start to berate yourself for falling off the wagon. Instead, why not reward yourself for getting through such a bad day with something that truly does take the sting out and leaves you feeling good hours later.

One thing you truly do deserve everyday, is to live life at your ideal weight in the healthiest body possible. So beginning today, change your thinking about the word deserve and just watch your weight begin to change!